No matter what… Reason with people

“Never get angry,” the Don had instructed. “Never make a threat. Reason with people.” The word “reason” sounded so much better in Italian, ragione, to rejoin. The art of this was to ignore all insults, all threats; to turn the other cheek.

For several years, I have been in several professions, tried different businesses, met a lot of people and encountered a number of situations that I needed to negotiate on something. Looking back at these experiences, I made some great decisions and made some bad ones too. There were times, by mere talking, I get the results I wanted. There are also times, I didn’t get what exactly what I wanted. And several times, I didn’t get it at all.

I have been pondering on some of those experiences wherein I get the results that I have wanted. Listed down the things I have done to make it happen according to what I have imagined, I have noticed some common things that I have undertaken to get it right. As I have read the book The Godfather over and over again, “Reason with people.” has been in all of what I have achieved. Whether small or big accomplishments, reasoning with people have been a great weapon to get things done. Whether its for the good or for something that is somehow twisted, with the right reasoning, I got what I wanted. And looking back to those failures and other misfortunes, mixing anger with thoughts have produced not so ideal results. And making a threat… did not produce anything good at all. It even made it worse.

I won’t go into the details of those experiences, but if you’d like to know, ask me…

Great men are not born great. They grow great

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Great men are not born great. They grow great. -Mario Puzo, the Godfather

I believe that a man has to make a name for himself. Most of the time, in our society right now, being associated with somebody who is in a position, gives them power, influence, pride, etc. It was even a trending topic a few months ago when somebody posted a picture on instagram about changing the plates of his car to the plate being used by his father or mother, who is a judge. It was quoted that he said that he is untouchable because his father or mother is a judge. SHAME ON YOU! If only Fernando Poe Jr.’s character is for real, I guess he would say, “Isang bala ka lang!” And definitely people will remember you as “Yung anak ni Judge…”

If you bank on the status of being associated with somebody or something, yes, you can influence others, not because of your status, it is because you are associated with somebody or something. People then refer to you as: yung anak ni judge… yung inaanak nung may-ari ng kompanya… yung kaibigan ni congressman… yung pamangkin ni mayor… yung member ng (kung ano mang organisasyon or ng federacion)… And having the guts to influence because of association. Encountering these people just make me say to myself, “Isang bala ka lang!”

I am not saying that being associated with one’s parents, relatives, friends or membership in an organization is a bad thing. It is actually a good thing! Only if we learn from them, emulate what they have done to achieve the status of being great. Having achieved something makes a person great. How we would love to be referred by people as: yung tumulong kay ganito… yung nakagawa ng ano (it should be something positive and great)… yung naging mayor ng (name of city or town, and assuming they have done good things)… Then, influencing others would be out of respect.

So if you would introduce yourself to me and associate yourself with something or someone, I’ll consider you as a pus that infects the mucus, that cruds up the fungus that feeds on the pond scum… I don’t give a damn kung sino man yang nanay o tatay mo or kung sino pa yang kamag-anak mo or kung member ka ng kung ano mang federasyon, you go back in line!

Note to self: Do great things and do good to others. If you are to be associated with somebody or something, make sure you have done something the same or better than what they have done.

“Never hate your enemies. It affects your judgement”

from The Godfather by Mario Puzo
from The Godfather by Mario Puzo

The book that I have read over and over again, maybe four times already. The last time I believe was more than five years ago and I’m planning to read it again. It was five years ago, I had the opportunity to have what I have aspired for, grabbed it and I started having a lot! The book taught me a lot and as time passed by, some, if not most of the lessons I have learned had been forgotten. I’ll be revisiting the Godfather again, and I’m claiming my spot back on top this year.

Never hate your enemies. It affects your judgement

This one I have totally missed… I truly agree that hate affects your judgement. And this quote will be one that I have to live by…

I’ll reclaim the top spot. How I’ll do it, we’ll never know how. What I am sure about is that I will be in perfect shape and condition to get what I want.